How much of premarital counseling is about discussing in-laws and family issues?

Especially with South Asian couples I'll always ask, I'll always probe and say, okay, is this an issue?

Have you guys talked about expectations?

What are your mom's expectations of her?

What's her dad's expectations of you?

What's the relationship like so far?

So on, right?

Because two families that are getting married, not just two people.

I bring it up almost all the time.

Of course each situation, each case is different. For some people they already know that, okay, this might be an issue and we spend the majority of premarital counseling actually tackling that and seeing is this viable.

Does your spouse have the type of temperament to be able to have thick skin sometimes?

Do you as a spouse have the ability to be able to defend your spouse.

Defending them in an honorable way without insulting your parents.

In many cases the overwhelming majority of premarital counseling is actually about navigating through that.

And the couples who do do that, alhamdulillah, and are prepped, they thank me later alhamdulillah, because it saves a lot of headache.

Because issues usually start, what, like at the wedding, you know?

Oh, yeah. Right. Jewelry, what hall we're going to go to.

Yep. Absolutely.