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- Is it permissible to choose someone other than family as a wali
Is it permissible to choose someone other than family as a wali
due to cultural mentality when wanting a proper Islamic marriage?
Is it permissible to choose someone other than family as a wali due to cultural mentality when wanting a proper Islamic marriage?
So, if the person who is your wali is refusing to be a wali because they want you to marry the exact person who grew up on the same street that they did in the country that they're from or whatever any of these other cultural issues are, and they are not accepting of the man's dean and khuluq and his ability to care for you.
Then if they're doing so not out of cautious concern for you and concern for your compatibility, but only for their own personal preference or to harm you, then this is an issue known as an iadaal, harmful interference and can disqualify a wali from being the wali.
However, see way too many women go to imams and people that do nikah and give them some big long story about how their parents are racist and they hate the deen and they just want the worst for them.
And that's why they're not allowing you to marry this random guy. And when you speak to the parents, the parents go, no, we said she could marry random guy.
But random guy needs to prove to us that he can care for our daughter.
So, yes, in general, a wali who is worthy of being disqualified, can be disqualified.
But, just because you don't like what the wali said doesn't mean that you can disqualify them.