When we're saying problematic in-laws, what are we talking about?

So there's a few things, right.

One, as men, we have a challenging position of balancing with balancing the rights of our spouse, right?

And sometimes we, because of a failure to like, navigate our own emotions, we go through one extreme or another. Either we are completely negligent of our wives, and say like, no, regardless, you have to respect my mom.

And respect is misinterpreted as you have to listen to whatever she says.

And so, even though we're newlyweds, you have to go to every single dawaat, you have to go to every single event, and you have to do this, and you have to do that, and if you don't.

Then I'm gonna take that as, like, you disrespecting my mother.

And then there are other people who go the other extreme and already have issues with their parents and then they get married and then they will, you know, astagfurallah will go as far as, like, insulting their parents in front of their spouse, under the guise of setting boundaries, right?